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Meet Jordan...

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Meet Jordan...

π•‚π•šπ•Ÿπ••π•π•ͺ π•–π•©π•‘π•π•’π•šπ•Ÿ π•ͺ𝕠𝕦𝕣 "𝕀π•₯𝕠𝕣π•ͺ" π•’π•Ÿπ•• π• π•Ÿπ•π•ͺ 𝕑𝕝𝕒𝕔𝕖 π•šπ•Ÿπ•—π• π•£π•žπ•’π•₯π•šπ• π•Ÿ 𝕙𝕖𝕣𝕖 π•₯𝕙𝕒π•₯ π•ͺ𝕠𝕦 𝕒𝕣𝕖 π•¨π•šπ•π•π•šπ•Ÿπ•˜ π•₯𝕠 𝕀𝕙𝕒𝕣𝕖.
I was married in 2012 to a man I had known and been in a relationship with since 2005 (with one two year hiatus). It’s a very long story, but I’ll try to be succinct. He became a very different person during the course of our marriage. The stories I could tell! The relationship chipped away at my self-esteem and my identity. And then I knew. If I stayed in this relationship what kind of role model and parent would I be?

My father once told me-β€œdon’t expect someone who was terrible in a marriage to be any better in a divorce”.... and he was so right. I was constantly adjusting and readjusting my expectations and now they’re just at rock bottom β€” so I am never surprised or disappointed.

My number one job has, is and will always be to keep Tucker (7) and Phoebe (5) safe. Physically and emotionally. So while I continue to fight for the parameters to allow them to have a relationship with their father that is fruitful and safe, I also fight to remember how important it is for them to have positive feelings about their father. He is a part of them and thus part of their identities. I never speak ill of him while they are around and they know nothing of the struggles I’ve faced.

In the mix of dealing with all of this, my father, a seasoned and well-respected attorney, was always the one I went to for advice. He passed away, with very little time to process the impending loss at the end of March of this year... and so the gravity of navigating challenges was felt even deeper. But thank goodness for my mom.... perhaps an unsolicited reminder to hold the things you care for a little tighter.

ℍ𝕠𝕨 π•π• π•Ÿπ•˜ π••π•šπ•• π•šπ•₯ π•₯π•’π•œπ•– π•ͺ𝕠𝕦 π•₯𝕠 𝕣𝕖𝕒𝕔𝕙 𝕒 π•™π•–π•’π•π•šπ•Ÿπ•˜ 𝕑𝕝𝕒𝕔𝕖?
I don’t know that I think of healing as a destination, but perhaps a journey. Loss and trauma are part of life and I feel very lucky to have not experienced that until much later in my life. I’m a school social worker in an international school full of refugee students and while I recognize β€œmy problems are still my problems”, it comes with some perspective. I can get through this. I will get through this.

π•Žπ•™π•’π•₯ 𝕠𝕣 𝕨𝕙𝕠 𝕙𝕖𝕝𝕑𝕖𝕕 π•ͺ𝕠𝕦 𝕙𝕖𝕒𝕝 π•’π•π• π•Ÿπ•˜ π•₯𝕙𝕖 𝕨𝕒π•ͺ? π”Έπ•Ÿπ•• 𝕙𝕠𝕨?
My mom, my dad, my children, my dog, my brothers, my sister in law, my girlfriends, my guy friends, boy friends. Nights out, Exercise, cocktails, sex , holidays, therapy, vacations ... talking about it and having people validate me. Building myself back to whole, a little at a timeβ€” not quite there yet, but knowing I will be, and knowing I’m not in a rush.

π•Žπ•™π•’π•₯ π•šπ•€ π•₯𝕙𝕖 π•€π•šπ•Ÿπ•˜π•π•– π•žπ• π•€π•₯ π•šπ•žπ•‘π• π•£π•₯π•’π•Ÿπ•₯ π•π•–π•€π•€π• π•Ÿ π•ͺ𝕠𝕦 π•π•–π•’π•£π•Ÿπ•–π•• π•—π•£π• π•ž π•–π•©π•‘π•–π•£π•šπ•–π•Ÿπ•”π•šπ•Ÿπ•˜ π•₯π•™π•šπ•€ π•™π•’π•£π••π•€π•™π•šπ•‘?
These experiences make us more resilient and they are the absolute worst and best part of life. They test our limits and help us to understand strengths we didn’t know existed. I would have never seen myself as a single mom and I still think I see single moms and don’t identify as having that much of a struggle because (while I know it’s tough, and my problems are my problems) I have a village! β€œFlowers grow from dirt.”

π•Žπ•™π•’π•₯ π•šπ•€ π•₯𝕙𝕖 𝕓𝕖𝕀π•₯ 𝕨𝕒π•ͺ π•₯𝕠 𝕀𝕦𝕑𝕑𝕠𝕣π•₯ π•€π• π•žπ•–π• π•Ÿπ•– 𝕨𝕙𝕠 π•šπ•€ π•˜π• π•šπ•Ÿπ•˜ π•₯π•™π•£π• π•¦π•˜π•™ 𝕒 π•€π•šπ•žπ•šπ•π•’π•£ π•€π•šπ•₯𝕦𝕒π•₯π•šπ• π•Ÿ?
Listen and validate

π•Žπ•™π•’π•₯ π•šπ•€ π•€π• π•žπ•–π•₯π•™π•šπ•Ÿπ•˜ π•‘π• π•€π•šπ•₯π•šπ•§π•– π•₯𝕙𝕒π•₯ π•–π•žπ•–π•£π•˜π•–π•• 𝕒𝕀 𝕒 𝕣𝕖𝕀𝕦𝕝π•₯ 𝕠𝕗 π•ͺ𝕠𝕦𝕣 π•–π•©π•‘π•–π•£π•šπ•–π•Ÿπ•”π•–?
Strength and seeing my resilience and scrappiness that I didn’t know I had. It’s never too late to start over.

HMUA: Kamerin Litten